Wedding Gift Etiquette
One of the most asked questions from wedding guests is how much to spend?
As well guests & family often ask "what should I buy" - especially for the couple who already have
The key rule is here to buy what you can afford - and stick to your budget.
If the couple has registered, try & get the details early on so that you can choose the perfect gift that
fits your budget. Of course, guests are free to shop wherever they choose and are not limited to shopping
from the registry, you may wish to surprise them. Remember, it's not considered polite for the happy
couple to tell you about what they'd like or even where they've registered, so you may have to get clever and ask
family or friends to find out.
For family, as a parent or grandparent wanting to buy something for your daughter / son or granddaughter /
grandson, then it's likely your budget will be bigger and your gift more substantial. Often parents buy larger one
off items, such as washing machines, cars, or make a substantial contribution towards the costs of the wedding.
If you're really stuck for ideas, then do be prepared to ask the engaged couple for suggestions -
they'll probably be very happy to let you know other gifts that they hadn't included on their initial
For couples on their second marriages, they often have most of the items on a regular registry list. If you know
the bride or groom well, consider getting something to complement their future home - perhaps a themed gift basket,
or get creative with personalized wine, or have some household items monogrammed just for fun!
You may find that some couples invitations include asking for money as a wedding gift - this may be toward the
cost of a honeymoon, or towards a large item that they are hoping to buy following their marriage.
Unique Wedding Gifts
Some of the best "unusual" gifts are those that are specially created for a couple - rather than something that
was on the registry gift list. You may well have the right type of eclectic boutique style shop in your own home
If you're stuck for ideas - there are a couple of sites where you can shop for something different - in the US,
try Etsy and in the UK, NotOnTheHighStreet. Both these sites offer hard-to-find or unique gift
ideas for weddings as well as creative & unusual presents for special occasions.
If you're not good at wrapping gifts, remember to ask for the gift-wrapping service when you make your purchase.
Otherwise, buying bags or boxes and carefully wrapping with tissue paper can look very pretty, for just a little
Gift Giving Etiquette
You can give your gift anytime from receiving the wedding invitation to around three months after the
wedding - though many people choose to take their gift to the wedding.
You don't have to be invited to the wedding or reception to give a gift - if you're a work colleague, old
friend, or friend of the family, then it's fine to send a present without expecting an invitation.
It can certainly be a big help to the couple if the gifts arrive before the wedding, so try and send or deliver
your gift in advance of the wedding day. This also has the advantage that you don't have to remember or carry
your gift around during the wedding ceremony!